People ask why black women bleach, or wear weave or have an attitude. I will tell why I think this is so. (I, me, my personal opinion)
Us black women have been and still are being considered as the least attractive in comparison to other women from other races. For the past 512 us black women have been compared and measured up against white women, and we have always been considered as less; less attractive, less graceful and less what ever else you can think of, we were considered as lower than low can go.
Our lips were too big, our noses were too wide, our hair was nappy and our skin was dark.
People can raise the argument in saying that, it was the same for black men too. Maybe it WAS. But now, Black men are praised, envied almost for the masculinity in which they hold. It has been scientifically proven that black people produce more testosterone than any other race on this planet, for our brothers that’s bliss, for us black women…not so much.
Women can be difficult, we can be impossible when we want to. What some men fail to realise is that these solid brick walls built around us are there for a reason, for protection. What women fail to realise, (as much as we are convinced that men are from polar universe) that men have the same, I think it’s fair to say that some men have it worse than women. In fact, the walls that women build around themselves cannot be compared to the iron fortresses that protect the sensitive side of a man.
These ‘walls’ or ‘fortresses’ work almost like the immune system. We all know the immune system, it helps to protect you from viruses and illnesses.
Behind these ‘walls’ stand a man or a woman in his or her most fragile state. If his/her fragility ends up in the wrong hands…you get heartbreak.
Heartbreak is like a virus. I use the term virus (I hope I make sense here) because when you get a virus, such as cold or flu you need antibodies to help you regain your natural self. These antibodies then remain in your body, for the next time you catch that virus they will able to deal with it.
Like viruses, not all heartbreaks are the same- it takes longer for some to heal than others.
Viruses (heartbreakers) always come back, (its annoying how troublesome people find a way of coming back into your life, right?) and some of them don’t change, like chicken pox; you can never catch chicken pox twice because chicken pox never changes. Your antibodies will still be effective in getting rid of them, if they were to come back.